Stop Giving Toxic People Second Chances!

“When people show you who they are, believe them the first time." ~Maya Angelou Remember this because it will happen many times in your life. When people show you who they are the first time believe them. Not the 29th. time. When a man doesn't call you back the first time, when you are mistreated the first time, when someone shows you lack of integrity or dishonesty the first time, know that this will be followed many many other times, that will some point in life come back to haunt or hurt you. Live your life in truth. Don't pretend to be someone you're not. You will survive anything if you live your life from the point of view of truth.” ― Oprah Winfrey

Judgement Call

There were certain things I missed when I walked away from God and Church. Faith in God brings great comfort which is one of MANY reasons why I went back to Him. But judgement from "Holier than thou" Christians was NOT one of the things I missed, in fact it's one of the reasons I left. I was a goody goody to the max! I didn't, smoke, drink or chew or hang with those who do. I did not sleep with any other man for 51 years but MY HUSBAND AND I was still judged! I was never good enough for those in church or my husband! These are verses that those judgmental Christians seem to skip over: Judge not, that you be not judged. For with what judgment you judge, you will be judged; and with the measure you use, it will be measured back to you. And why do you look at the speck in your brother’s eye, but do not consider the plank in your own eye? Or how can you say to your brother, ‘Let me remove the speck from your eye’; and look, a plank is in your own eye? Hypocrite! First remove the plank from your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye. Matthew 7:1-6 -----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------We used to say this sometimes in the Presbyterian churches I attended as a child and teen: It correctly states that GOD is the judge! I also had my oldest children memorize it in our homeschool. Yeah, I was THAT ZEALOUS! The Apostles’ Creed I believe in God, the Father Almighty, Creator of Heaven and earth; and in Jesus Christ, His only Son Our Lord, Who was conceived by the Holy Spirit, born of the Virgin Mary, suffered under Pontius Pilate, was crucified, died, and was buried. He descended into hell; the third day He rose again from the dead; He ascended into Heaven, and sits at the right hand of God, the Father almighty; from thence He shall come to judge the living and the dead. I believe in the Holy Spirit, the holy Catholic (Just means Christian) Church, the communion of saints, the forgiveness of sins, the resurrection of the body, and life everlasting. Amen...................................................................................................................................................................Also Peter The Apostle said that judgement will begin with CHRISTIANS. ! Peter 4:17........................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................... "For the time has come for judgment to begin at the house of God; and if it begins with us first, what will be the end of those who do not obey the gospel of God?" I think it's time for Christians to stop JUDGING and start LOVING PEOPLE TO CHRIST!

The Party: In memory of Joyce Alexis Hewitt June 27, 1952-January 9, 2021

More than just a sister-in-law she was a great friend. Rest In Peace Joyce You are so loved!

A lady always knows when to leave.....

"Miss Ruth was a lady. A lady always knows when to leave." ~ The Film "Fried Green Tomatoes"

This quote from a favorite movie has come back to me many times and rung true in many of my life situations. In 2009 when my mom passed. In 2016 when I moved out of my exes house. In 2020 when I left my exes state....In 2021 it has come up many times: when my sister-in -law passed in January....when I left my brother's ranch house in April and then when I left the mostly toxic YouTube community/click later in the year and who knows when it will be time for me to move on again but I have confidence the Lord will let me know!

You will show me the path of life; In Your presence is fullness of joy; In Your right hand there are pleasures forevermore. Psalm 16:11 Meghan Trainer's I'm A Lady

What Can You Do About Assholes?

I had an interesting conversation with my roomate the other day. It was about cast iron skillets and assholes. I said no I did not use soap on the cast iron skillet and my ex used to go on and on about that. He said something like, "cooks are particular about their cook ware" or something like that. At that I felt compelled to say, "I did most of the cooking" (I had so much practice that I was also better at it) To which he replied, "Why did he go on about the skillet then?" I said, "Because he's an asshole" To which he replied, "There's not much you can do about assholes" And I VERY MUCH DISAGREE WITH THAT STATEMENT BUT I DID NOT WANT TO ARGUE. HENCE THIS POST.There are many things we can do about assholes: 1) We can divorce them 2) We can avoid them. When we realize someone is an asshole, we can not hang around them. 3) If they refuse to leave us alone, we can get a restraining order 4) If they slander us, we can sue them 5) As Nadia says here, We can forgive them and it's like cutting the chord that binds us to them which makes us like freedom fighters who 6) Aren't afraid to SPEAK TRUTH TO STUPID. AMEN 7) SOMETHING PROFOUND CAME TO ME LATER THAT EVENING. WHEN WE FEEL HELPLESS AGAINST ALL THE ASSHOLES IN THE WORLD (AND THEIR ARE ALOT OF THEM) WHAT DO WE DO THEN? BULLIES ARE ASSHOLES AND WHEN PEOPLE FEEL HELPLESS AGAINST THEM THEY HAVE TAKEN THEIR OWN LIVES AND THAT IS SO SAD AND UNNECESSARY! PLEASE EVERYONE REMEMBER THERE IS SO MUCH WE CAN DO ABOUT ASSHOLES!!!!! PLEASE STOP ENCOURAGING AND SUPPORTING THEM! THANK YOU! "THERE IS A LIGHT THAT SHINES IN THE DARKNESS AND THE DARKNESS CANNOT AND WILL NOT AND SHALL NOT OVER COME IT!" PS So maybe I am "dangerous" after all? LOL

Red talks with BOX VAN DEE about Depression and Suicide #mentalhealthaw...

Why I’m Thankful for Rats #mentalhealthawareness #suicideprevention (November 30, 2020)

So I was very very depressed before Glad and her pit bull, Blue moved in my house. (September 2019) I had stopped doing Airbnb but still could not find a "regular" job. Also I wasn't in contact with most of my children because our relationships were so strained. (And three of them lived right near me) Then I found out there were rats next to my dishwasher (inside of the cabinet) and they had babies! The exterminators would NOT pull out my dishwasher! I hope they regret that decision because of it I eventually fired them! They were successful at finding out where they came in though and closed off those places and we sawed off tree limbs so they couldn't enter on the roof which was one way they were but then: They were trapped in my house! And I got them with the plastic type trap from the exterminators and the old fashioned messy type which are 2$ at Walmart! (Wood and wire). I also had a safe (in case animals kill it after they eat it because I was going to get a cat!) rat poison but I'm not sure if that helped or not. Thankfully when I was suicidal I DID NOT KNOW the rats were there (as they probably were already) Blue (Glads dog) discovered them, he kept sniffing by the dishwasher and opening up the cupboard door by it! So I am also so THANKFUL that Gladys and Blue were there for moral support when I found out!

When this video from Lauren Daigle premiered I was in the pit and I felt someone heard me whisper, "I have nothing left" Rescue I suppose that's why I am an Agnostic NOT and Atheist because that was the only thing I had left: my belief in a Higher Power who it seemed "heard my SOS" I signed up for Betterhelp online counseling but later found it for free at my local health dept in Georgia.