Tuesday, March 8, 2022

The Party: In memory of Joyce Alexis Hewitt June 27, 1952-January 9, 2021

More than just a sister-in-law she was a great friend. Rest In Peace Joyce You are so loved!
January 8, 2021 She woke about 11:15 pm and said she was going to a party. She went to the bathroom on her potty chair. She asked me if I was going, so I said “later”. She said she saw Drew Barrymore. I asked who all was going to this party. First she said, “Two people”. Then she said “four”. She said Darrell and Sheryl were going. I asked her if I was invited, she said, “yes”. She asked, “What time are they coming?” because I said they would pick her up (because she kept trying to get out of bed). Then she said, “I need to put on my make-up” “Go get me my make-up and my wig” I make her promise not to move and I got her wig, make-up and a mirror. We put on the wig and she was applying the make-up herself when I got her oxygen hose which had come off again. She said, “ What? This? I thought I was dead already.” A single tear rolled down her cheek and she put the make-up down. I gave her her medicines and I told her, “It will happen when we’re all ready” Then she took the ring off her right hand and said, “Put this ring in a special place” I said, “Okay. And what about the other ring?” and she said, “Give this to Jody” I read to her more from the Bible and we prayed. She also said, “Look at the beautiful roses!” I reminded her they were from Darren and that the flower bear was from Jon and she grabbed him to put on the bed beside her. She was also exercising in the bed! Lifting one leg and the the other! I said to myself, “This may take awhile.” When we’re all ready! Psalm 116:15 Precious in the sight of the Lord is the death of His saints. PS The mistake in my story- which btw I wrote a few hours after it happened at about 3:00 am .........where she said "are you going?" (I meant to the Party) and it sounded like was I going to use the potty chair. I am leaving in there because we had joked about me using the potty chair! lol The mistake was unintentional though (to me).

Monday, February 28, 2022

A lady always knows when to leave.....

"Miss Ruth was a lady. A lady always knows when to leave." ~ The Film "Fried Green Tomatoes"
This quote from a favorite movie has come back to me many times and rung true in many of my life situations. In 2009 when my mom passed. In 2016 when I moved out of my exes house. In 2020 when I left my exes state....In 2021 it has come up many times: when my sister-in -law passed in January....when I left my brother's ranch house in April and then when I left the mostly toxic YouTube community/click later in the year and who knows when it will be time for me to move on again but I have confidence the Lord will let me know!
You will show me the path of life; In Your presence is fullness of joy; In Your right hand there are pleasures forevermore. Psalm 16:11 Meghan Trainer's I'm A Lady

Monday, February 7, 2022

What Can You Do About Assholes?

I had an interesting conversation with my roomate the other day. It was about cast iron skillets and assholes. I said no I did not use soap on the cast iron skillet and my ex used to go on and on about that. He said something like, "cooks are particular about their cook ware" or something like that. At that I felt compelled to say, "I did most of the cooking" (I had so much practice that I was also better at it) To which he replied, "Why did he go on about the skillet then?" I said, "Because he's an asshole" To which he replied, "There's not much you can do about assholes" And I VERY MUCH DISAGREE WITH THAT STATEMENT BUT I DID NOT WANT TO ARGUE. HENCE THIS POST.There are many things we can do about assholes: 1) We can divorce them 2) We can avoid them. When we realize someone is an asshole, we can not hang around them. 3) If they refuse to leave us alone, we can get a restraining order 4) If they slander us, we can sue them 5) As Nadia says here, We can forgive them and it's like cutting the chord that binds us to them which makes us like freedom fighters who 6) Aren't afraid to SPEAK TRUTH TO STUPID. AMEN 7) SOMETHING PROFOUND CAME TO ME LATER THAT EVENING. WHEN WE FEEL HELPLESS AGAINST ALL THE ASSHOLES IN THE WORLD (AND THEIR ARE ALOT OF THEM) WHAT DO WE DO THEN? BULLIES ARE ASSHOLES AND WHEN PEOPLE FEEL HELPLESS AGAINST THEM THEY HAVE TAKEN THEIR OWN LIVES AND THAT IS SO SAD AND UNNECESSARY! PLEASE EVERYONE REMEMBER THERE IS SO MUCH WE CAN DO ABOUT ASSHOLES!!!!! PLEASE STOP ENCOURAGING AND SUPPORTING THEM! THANK YOU! "THERE IS A LIGHT THAT SHINES IN THE DARKNESS AND THE DARKNESS CANNOT AND WILL NOT AND SHALL NOT OVER COME IT!" PS So maybe I am "dangerous" after all? LOL